tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-74549664253542875502024-03-05T16:53:21.102-08:00Discipline for Defiant Teens on the Autism SpectrumWe provide effective disciplinary techniques that parents can use with their "special needs" teens on the autism spectrum.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454966425354287550.post-48032798028599263502015-07-31T07:30:00.013-07:002022-07-30T04:20:47.251-07:00Parenting System that Significantly Reduces Defiant Behavior in Teens with High-Functioning Autism [ASD Level 1]<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div style="text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/9N94OX02NCU?rel=0" width="360"></iframe></div>
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<b><i>My Aspergers Teen</i> is an instructional video series and downloadable eBook designed to help parents of defiant, Aspergers (AS) and High-Functioning Autistic (HFA) teens. The program contains prevention, identification, and intervention strategies for the most destructive of teen autism-related behaviors.</b><br />
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Although Aspergers is at the milder end of the autism spectrum (i.e., high-functioning autism), the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager on the spectrum are more difficult than they would be with an <i>average</i> teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the "special needs" teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels, unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.</div>
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The standard disciplinary techniques that are recommended for “typical” teenagers do not take into account the many issues facing a child with a neurological disorder. Violent rages, self-injury, isolation-seeking tendencies and communication problems that arise due to auditory and sensory issues are just some of the behaviors that parents of teens with ASD [level 1] will have to learn to control.<br />
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Parents need to come up with a consistent disciplinary plan ahead of time, and then present a united front and continually review their strategies for potential changes and improvements as the Aspergers or HFA teen develops and matures.<br />
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In the <i>My Aspergers Teen</i> parenting program, the parent will learn how to:</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
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<li style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #444444;">Clearly post the rules and consequences outlined in the agreement</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #444444;">Implement a reward system for compliance with rules</span></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #444444;">Firmly apply consequences tailored to the specific needs of the Aspergers and HFA teen</span></li>
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I just want to express my heart felt thanks for your simple well mapped out practical program. I HAVE NEVER reached out and took the time to write a thank you message for a program. I am still in week 3 but have looked ahead to preview the rest of the program, only because I have such faith in it, and I want to recommend it to other parents. I live in the New Jersey area which has one of the highest rates of Autism if not the highest, and I know a few parents who like myself can really benefit from this program. My husband and I are going to start from week one again so we are all on the same page and can help, remind and support one another. I have always believed in the importance of being on 'the same page'. My son Thomas is 15 and has Asperger Syndrome. He has a younger brother James 13 who loves sports. I am very happy to say they both are doing really well in school, and we are giving a big push on life skills. Thomas’ main issue these days is wanting to do what he wants when he wants.
More control. I believe if I am consistent and patient with this program, it will be very beneficial. Once again I am very grateful to you and your staff for putting this program together - and at such a fair and reasonable fee. I wish you much success. You chose a path to be a blessing, and may blessing be bestowed upon you and your loved ones. Thanks Again!" ~ Ida</i></span><i>
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<b>ASD teens possess a unique set of attitudes and behaviors:</b><br />
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Social Skills</span></b>— Social conventions are a confusing maze for teens on the autism spectrum. They can be disarmingly concise and to the point, and may take jokes and exaggerations literally. Because they struggle to interpret figures of speech and tones of voice that “neuro-typicals” naturally pick up on, they may have difficulty engaging in a two-way conversation. As a result, they may end up fixating on their own interests and ignoring the interests and opinions of others.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Sensory Difficulties</span></b>— Teens on the autism spectrum can be extremely sensitive to loud noise, strong smells and bright lights. This can be a challenge in relationships as these young people may be limited in where they can go on, how well they can tolerate the environment, and how receptive they are to instruction from parents and teachers.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Routines and Fixations</span></b>— Teens with Aspergers and HFA rely on routine to provide a sense of control and predictability in their lives. Another characteristic of the disorder is the development of special interests that are unusual in focus or intensity. These "special needs" teens may become so obsessed with their particular areas of interest that they get upset and angry when something or someone interrupts their schedule or activity.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Interpreting and Responding to Emotion</span></b>— Teens with Aspergers and HFA often suffer from “mindblindness,” which means they have difficulty understanding the emotions others are trying to convey through facial expressions and body language. The problem isn’t that these teens can’t feel emotion, but that they have trouble expressing their own emotions and understanding the feelings of others. “Mindblindness” often give parents the impression that teenager is insensitive, selfish and uncaring.<br />
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Awkwardness</span></b>— Teens with Aspergers and HFA tend to be physically and socially awkward, which makes them a frequent target of school bullies. Low self-esteem caused by being rejected and outcast by peers often makes these teens even more susceptible to “acting-out” behaviors at home and school.<br />
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<span><b>Testimonial:</b><i> "Thank you! No....I mean sincerely thank you! I'm at work. I'm a single dad. Not really...just technically. I work from home and care
for my only child who is 12 with Aspergers, my mom, my mom-in-law and my father-in-law. I'm blessed in that I can do this. My wife
is a professor for UT and is gone almost all the time and when home she's exhausted. Anyways, I'm at my wits end with Garrett. It's
as if he challenges me on everything and then has a meltdown if he doesn't get his way. I bought your book and didn't expect to get
videos too. So I'm listening to your videos as I work and by the time I got to your fourth video I knew I had found the right source. It
was if you were speaking directly to me. So when I say thank you, I mean just that. Can't wait to read the book and put your plan into
action. God bless. ~ Joey L."</i></span></div>
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<b>Due to the autism-related attitudes and behaviors listed above, many teens may also experience the following associated problems:</b></div>
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Criminal Activity</span></b>—Pain, loneliness and despair can lead to problems with drugs, sex and alcohol. In their overwhelming need to fit in and make friends, some teenagers on the autism spectrum fall into the wrong high school crowds. “Average” teens who abuse substances will use the Aspergers or HFA teen's naivety to get him to buy or carry drugs and liquor for their group. If cornered by a police officer, the "special needs" teen may not not have the skill to answer the officer's questions appropriately. For example, if the officer says, "Do you know how fast you were driving?" - the teen may reply bluntly, "Yes," and thus appears to be a smart-aleck.</div>
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Depression and Acting Out</span></b>—The teenage years are more emotional for everyone. Yet the hormonal changes of adolescence coupled with the problems outlined above might mean that the "special needs" teen becomes emotionally overwhelmed. Childish tantrums reappear. Boys often act-out by physically attacking a teacher or peer. They may experience "meltdown" at home after another day filled with harassment, bullying, pressure to conform, and rejection. Suicide and drug addiction become real concerns, as the teen now has access to cars, drugs and alcohol. The “saddest and most difficult time” can overwhelm not only the Aspergers or HFA teen, but also his family.</div>
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Inability to "Be a Teen"</span></b>—A teenager on the spectrum typically does not care about fads and clothing styles (concerns that obsess all others in their peer group). These young people may neglect their hygiene and wear the same haircut for years. Boys forget to shave; girls don't comb their hair or follow fashion. Some remain stuck in a grammar school clothes and hobbies such as unicorns and Legos, instead of moving into adolescent concerns like FaceBook and dating. Aspergers and HFA boys often have no motor coordination. This leaves them out of high school sports, typically an essential area of male bonding and friendship.</div>
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Sexual Issues</span></b>—Aspergers and HFA teens are not privy to street knowledge of sex and dating behaviors that other teens pick up naturally. This leaves them naive and clueless about sex. Boys can become obsessed with Internet pornography and masturbation. They can be overly forward with a girl who is merely being kind, and then later face charges of stalking her. A girl on the autism spectrum may have a fully developed female body and no understanding of flirtation and non-verbal sexual cues, making her susceptible to harassment and even date rape.</div>
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<b><span style="color: #444444;">Social Isolation</span></b>—In the teenage world where everyone feels insecure, teens that appear different are voted off the island. Aspergers and HFA teens often have odd mannerisms. One "special needs" teen talks in a loud un-modulated voice, avoids eye contact, interrupts others, violates their physical space, and steers the conversation to her favorite odd topic. Another appears willful, selfish and aloof, mostly because he is unable to share his thoughts and feelings with others. Isolated and alone, many of these young people are too anxious to initiate social contact. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Many are stiff and rule-oriented and act like little adults, which is a deadly trait in any teenage popularity contest. Friendship and all its nuances of reciprocity can be exhausting for a teenager on the spectrum, even though he wants it more than anything else. One teenager ended a close friendship with this note: "Your expectations exhaust me. The phone calls, the talks, all your feelings... it's just too much for me. I can't take it anymore."<br />
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to a person who is surviving on: <span style="color: #444444;">a</span><span style="color: #444444;">nger, b</span><span style="color: #444444;">eing a mistake, d</span><span style="color: #444444;">epression, h</span><span style="color: #444444;">ate, i</span><span style="color: #444444;">solation, l</span><span style="color: #444444;">ow self-esteem, r</span><span style="color: #444444;">esentment, s</span><span style="color: #444444;">adness and s</span><span style="color: #444444;">elf-hate.</span></div></div>
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Have you heard your teenager say things like: <span style="color: #444444;">I'm a mistake. </span><span style="color: #444444;">I'm dumb. </span><span style="color: #444444;">I'm useless. </span><span style="color: #444444;">I hate myself. </span><span style="color: #444444;">I wish I was dead. </span><span style="color: #444444;">What is wrong with me? </span><span style="color: #444444;">Why was I born?</span></div>
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If so, then <u>alarm bells</u> should be going off. You know changes need to happen! Low self-esteem and behavioral problems go hand-in-hand!!!</div>
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<i>My Aspergers Teen</i> eBook is <u>guaranteed</u> to (a) improve your teen's behavior and self-esteem,
<u>and</u> (b) empower parents and assist them in starting to enjoy their amazing Aspergers and HFA teens.<br />
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Parenting strong-willed, defiant teenagers on the autism spectrum is tough - if you don't know how, that is! In this program, you will discover how to:</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />
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<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Be your teen’s best advocate</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Help her comply with rules and expectations</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Help him learn positive ways to "work with" his differences -- not to "fight" them</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Learn the specifics of autism-related behavior and how to keep it in perspective</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Look at mistakes as lessons -- not as major set-backs</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Re-evaluate your expectations</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Take your power back as the parent</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Tune-in to who your child genuinely is -- not what the stereotypical child is </span></b><b><span style="color: #444444;">(based on social beliefs)</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Cope with your teen's difficult and aggressive behaviors</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Understand what is really going on inside her head</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Help your teen cope better in the community and at school</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Keep the peace at home with the rest of the family</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Greatly improve your child's self-esteem, because "special needs" teens with low self-esteem </span></b><b><span style="color: #444444;">have very little - or no - motivation to change behavior</span></b></li>
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If you have tried talking, screaming, punishing, pleading, and negotiating, but your teen still walks all over you… If you find yourself "walking on eggshells" around your teen trying to avoid saying something that will set him off… If you are tired of struggling with a person who is disrespectful, obnoxious, or even abusive toward you in your own home… If you are frustrated and exhausted from constant arguing… Then download the <b><i>My Aspergers Teen</i></b> eBook, and begin the healing process within 5 minutes from now!<br /><br />
<b>Imagine NO MORE:</b></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><b><br /></b>
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<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Getting pulled into pointless, never-ending arguments</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Energy-sucking power struggles that ruin the whole evening</span></b></li>
<li><b><span style="color: #444444;">Feeling powerless and stress-out because nothing you say to your teen gets through</span></b></li>
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Now, when you talk, your teen will listen and respond appropriately. Don’t go another day being a hostage in your own house. Get back in control of your teenager today.<br />
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I can tell you from over 20 years of experience that <i>bad autism-related teen behavior</i> does NOT change without an intervention like the one I'm giving you here. Inside <b><i>My Aspergers Teen</i></b>, you will get all the tools you need to improve your child's behavior. And as always, I guarantee your success -- or your money back! <br />
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The problem is that most parents of defiant Aspergers and HFA teens have tried very hard to get <i>just a little respect and compliance</i>, but with little - or no - success. And it seems the harder the parent tries, the more the teenager rebels.<br />
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If parents don’t have the techniques outlined in the <b><i>My Aspergers Teen</i></b> program, all they are left with are <i>typical disciplinary methods</i>. And as you may have discovered, <i>typical</i> <i>methods</i> <b><span style="color: red;">don't work</span></b> with an Aspergers or HFA teenager.<br />
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Below is a partial list of typical parenting strategies. Parents have found these strategies to have little - or no - effect on their "special needs" teen's behavior:<br />
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<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Trying to "reason" with the child</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Having heart-to-heart talks</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">"Confronting" the child or being assertive</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Grounding</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Taking away privileges</span></b></li>
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<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Counseling</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Trying to be a nicer parent</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Trying to be a tougher parent</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">"Giving in" and letting the child have his way</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Verbal warnings</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Ignoring misbehavior</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Medication</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Having the child go live with his other parent (if parents are separated or divorced)</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Having another family member "talk to" or attempt to "mentor" the child</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Threatening to send the child away to a juvenile facility</span></b></li>
<li style="text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Threatening to call the police</span></b></li>
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Adolescence is probably the most miserable and complicated years for many young people with Asperger’s (AS) and High-Functioning Autism (HFA). This is not true of everyone – some do extremely well. Their indifference to what peers think makes them indifferent to the intense peer pressure of adolescence. They can flourish within their specialty and become accomplished in their area of interest (e.g., music, history, etc.). <br />
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Unfortunately, many AS and HFA adolescents become more socially isolated during a period when they crave friendships and inclusion more than ever. In the rough-and-tough world of middle and high school, these adolescents often face rejection, isolation and bullying. To make matters worse, school becomes more demanding in a period when these young people have to compete for college placements. Issues of sexuality and a desire for independence from moms and dads create even more problems.<br />
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In the adolescent world where everyone feels insecure, young people that appear different or “odd” are voted out of “the group.” AS and HFA adolescents often have strange mannerisms (e.g., talk in a loud un-modulated voice, avoid eye contact, interrupt others, violate others physical space, steer the conversation to their favorite “odd” topic, etc.). Many of these young people appear willful, selfish and aloof, mostly because they are unable to share their thoughts and feelings with others. Isolated and alone, these adolescents are simply too anxious to initiate social contact.<br />
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Many AS and HFA adolescents are stiff and rule-oriented and act like little adults, which is a deadly trait in any adolescent popularity contest. Friendship and all its nuances of reciprocity can be exhausting for these teenagers, even though they want it more than anything else. <br />
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AS and HFA teenagers typically don’t care about current fads and clothing styles (concerns that obsess everyone else in their peer group). Also, these adolescents may neglect their hygiene and wear the same haircut for years. Some AS and HFA adolescents remain stuck in grammar school clothes and hobbies (e.g., unicorns, Legos, dolls, etc.) instead of moving into adolescent concerns like FaceBook and dating. AS and HFA males often have little motor coordination, which leaves them out of high school sports (typically an essential area of male bonding and friendship).<br />
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AS and HFA adolescents are not privy to street knowledge of sex and dating behaviors that other adolescents pick up naturally. This leaves them naive and clueless. AS and HFA males can become obsessed with Internet pornography and masturbation. They can be overly forward with a female peer who is simply being kind, and then they can get accused of stalking the girl. AS and HFA girls may have fully developed bodies, but no understanding of flirtation and non-verbal sexual cues, thus making them susceptible to harassment – and even date rape.<br />
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Loneliness and depression can lead to problems with drugs, sex and alcohol. In their overwhelming need to “fit in” and make friends, some AS and HFA adolescents fall into the wrong crowd. Typical adolescents who abuse drugs and alcohol may use the AS/HFA teen's naivety to get him or her to buy/carry drugs and alcohol for their group.<br />
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Many AS and HFA adolescents, with their average to above average IQs, can sail through elementary school, and yet hit academic problems in middle and high school. They now have to deal with 5 to 7 different teachers instead of just 1 or 2. The likelihood that at least one teacher will be indifferent - or even hostile - toward making special accommodations is almost certain. The AS and HFA teenager now has to face a series of classroom environments with different classmates, odors, distractions, noise levels, and sets of expectations.<br />
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AS and HFA adolescents, with their distractibility and difficulty organizing materials, face similar academic problems as young people with ADHD. A high school term paper or a science project becomes impossible to manage, because no one has taught the youngster how to break it up into a series of small steps. Even though the academic stress on AS and HFA students can be overwhelming, school administrators may be reluctant to enroll them in special education at this late point in their educational career.<br />
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Adolescence is an emotional rollercoaster for all teens. But, the hormonal changes of adolescence coupled with the problems associated with having an autism spectrum disorder mean that AS and HFA adolescents can easily become emotionally overwhelmed. Childish tantrums can reappear. Males often act-out by physically attacking the teacher or a schoolmate. They may experience "meltdowns" at home after another day filled with harassment, bullying, pressure to conform, and rejection. Depression and drug/alcohol abuse become real concerns, as the adolescent now has access to a vehicle, drugs and alcohol.<br />
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The parent of an adolescent with AS or HFA often faces many problems that others parents don’t. As the teen approaches adulthood, time is quickly running out for teaching him or her how to become an independent adult. The parent may face issues like vocational training, teaching independent living, and providing lifetime financial support. Meanwhile, the immature AS/HFA teen is often indifferent – and even hostile – to the parent’s concerns.<br />
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Once AS and HFA youngsters enter the adolescent years, they are harder to control and less likely to listen to their parents. They may be tired of parents nagging them to “pay attention to people when they’re talking to you” … “comb your hair” … “you need a shower” … “get up, it’s time to get ready for school” …and so on. They may hate school because they are dealing with so much anxiety, social isolation and academic failure.<br />
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This email is to thank you very much for sharing all the important info you have so that people can be helped. I once was very worried thinking that my son would never make it in life. But now I have hope and evidence that he will do just fine as an adult with Aspergers. ~ Robin F.</div>
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What I found interesting is how much my Aspergers son seemed to be feeding into the diagnosis of "depression" and his "anger issues". I also noticed that the medications actually made him more miserable - and his defiant behavior escalated. Your ebook has really helped, and I am only in the first week! ~ Beth L.</div>
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Your Aspergers teen eBook has given me and my wife a great deal of hope with our son. He is 13, but I can see already that with our parenting style, it hasn’t done S___ any favours at all. I thought that one of the key areas you wrote about was very interesting to me, was the topic that as parents you shouldn't feel guilty for trying your very best and to take time out to look after yourself. I constantly feel guilty for being a working mum etc. I love the eBook and have read the material over and over. I will stick to the 4 weeks with vivid interest, and I can see how the techniques you promote will help me in my job as a lecturer too. Keep the good work. ~ Jayne T.</div>
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It has been 4 weeks since we purchased the e-book and implemented the strategies. THANK YOU!! We have a calmer and peaceful home again. Our daughter responded just as you outlined in the book, I was amazed at how accurately you depicted the expected behavior week by week. Job well done!! Several days into the first week, she told me she didn't like my new behavior and wanted to know why I wasn't raising my voice at her or arguing anymore. It surprised me that she responded this way. Week 2 was rough, she brought out all the claws, fangs, horns, you name it and tried everything to get us mad, bend the rules, etc. My husband and I almost broke during that week, but we did our best to keep the "poker face". We are all doing much better and I thank you again!! I plan to purchase more of your e-books in the near future.
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After reading your autonomy section under Summary Points, the muddy waters cleared for us immediately. We have re-instituted family meetings with ALL members of the family as much as possible so that no one is singled out. We have established a family support system and letting all of them know there is no shame in asking for help when you need it. House rules, fair-fighting, decision-making have been established. We continue to do your assignments and are getting better at them all the time. Best of all, this has made our marriage stronger! We remind each other about the "arts" of saying yes and no. We work together on earned privileges and consequences. Thank you for your time and energy. ~ Carl and Melissa G.</div>
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During these past few weeks, my husband and I have been implementing many steps, successfully. Our Aspergers son has been completing his weekly chores with not much complaint. There haven't been any melt-downs around here, and the few irritable times we've had have been much less stressful. I hope it's still ok to email you from time to time to say hi and fill you in on our progress. ~ Thomas and Janet P.</div>
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For years I have been trying to determine what was wrong with my son, or me, and trying to understand why we just couldn’t communicate. We used to have great bouts of anger, but he simply couldn’t express it and just fumed. I believe he resented me as a parent, and yet I felt it was because I gave him everything and satisfied his every need, anything but put up with the meltdowns. But those days are gone thanks to you Mark. My son has improved so much that few people even know he has a disorder. ~ Kayla U.</div>
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I am incorporating your suggestions into my life with my 17-year-old son – and things are going so much better. We are both trying and, though he still goes to counseling, I feel like I have tools to work with him now. Thanks a $$$million! ~ Jerry M.</div>
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I can’t even begin to tell you how helpful it was in turning my teenager around. It’s been a great year this year, and I want to thank you for your huge part in that. No more sleepless nights. Your website gets lots of referrals from me! I think your method utilizing online courses and support groups is brilliant. Warm regards. ~ Kathy E.</div>
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I do not believe this program is for just Aspergers teens. I think every parent can benefit from this program. I wish I had access to something like this when my child was younger. It would have saved us a lot of heartache now. ~ Peter Q.</div>
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I have been using your program for about a month now, I am on chapter 4, and I have to tell you----THANK YOU!!! I finally have had PEACE in my life. My child with Aspergers is doing his chores. I have not argued with him during all this time. Life is good again, and I feel confident and supported. My husband and I were making mistakes without even knowing. I'll keep you posted. So far so good! ~ Sara M.</div>
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I have fired the counselors, weaned my child off medications, and I am ready to begin the work of becoming a stronger, more focused parent. My soon to be ex-husband has also agreed to purchase the program and we intend on working it together to get our teen back on track. I thank you for your help and guidance. ~ Wanda S.</div>
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I have seen such a change in myself and my son, it's amazing. Not that the problems are all gone, but simply by saying I'm not arguing and honoring that, even though I've said it before, surprised him (and me) and put an end to so many problems. It was like I was the MOM again. I guess just having the support of the program helped and knowing there were others out there with the same problems. ~ Kara S.</div>
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I have successfully (I think) completed your program with my 14-year-old child with Aspergers, and things are WAY better. It has been a rough two years, and though I’m no fool and know there's more to come, your eBook has helped me stop what felt like a runaway train. ~ Teresa J.</div>
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I just followed the instructions, and he stopped yelling at me. He started doing his homework, and he stopped hitting me immediately. It really gave me the sense that I am in charge. I’m so grateful I found your website and eBook. ~ Kendra L.</div>
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I know my teen with Aspergers just needed a firmer hand at my home. With this program, I have gotten my son to regain his pride in himself, and his grades have come up immensely, and his attitude has turned around so that the teachers are commenting. I'm going back through the program again on what I'm not strong enough on. It has definitely made a difference. I will keep you posted. Thank you! ~ Katherine H.</div>
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I know that we will still experience some bumpy times, but we are feeling a bit more confident as we continue to practice the skills in your Apsergers teen eBook. Our house- hold is certainly seeing the difference and we feel more prepared to deal with our 16 year old as he progresses through these adolescent years. ~ Kami D.</div>
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I started using the language and skills suggested and WOW what a difference it's making already! My defiant child is being positive, kind and respectful to me. It's hard to change, but I'm convinced this is going to work for my family. I've learned that my actions have a direct effect on my Aspergers son, and when I show him respect -- I get it right back! Thank you so much for retraining me. ~ Wendy L.</div>
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I totally gave-up my traditional parenting and followed your strategies from the beginning. I am glad to tell you that I feel my Aspergers son respects me more -- and this is very important to start communication. Many thanks for your kind attention to encourage me implementing your strategies and always replying to my enquiries. ~ Veronica J.</div>
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I wanted to let you know how much I really appreciate your Aspergers book. It is full of really practical and easy-to-use information to help parents with their Aspergers teens, and also the rest of the family. As a journalist I know a thing or two about writing - and this is definitely put together and written very professionally. ~ Ian K.</div>
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I wanted to say thank you for all your support, sound advice, and speedy responses. You were the only person I could speak with, and you helped me enormously. I will never forget your support Mark - when I was terrorized and totally overwhelmed you gave me the strength and support that allowed me to do my very best for my son. God bless you for your generosity of spirit and your great work. I don't know where I would be today without your help and advice. ~ Sue N.</div>
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I was amazed how well my son responded to me when I humbled myself, admitted that I made some mistakes in my parenting, apologized for it and told him that I would be making some changes. I was ready to give up on him and have him go live with his father. Your sound advice has given me a glimmer of hope and made me realize that my son is like you said "a work in progress", and giving up on him and handing over my parental responsibilities to my ex-husband would be a big mistake. I love my son too much to bail out on him like that. Thank you so much. ~ Ginny D.</div>
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I wish I had this program when M___ was just a child, I think our lives would’ve been so much easier. I have actually gotten the words that you use to turn arguments around. No more power struggles …no more temper tantrums …no more lying. You are making a difference in the world Mark. Please continue your work! ~ Rhonda W.</div>
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I work in psychiatry, but have struggled to discipline my own Aspergers son and to understand his behavior. I have put in to practice the first week session and already it is working. Your insight into Aspergers teens is amazing... it was like you had written it all for my son and I. Thank you, a thousand times, thank you. I’ll keep you informed of J__’s progress, my 16 year old defiant teenager! ~ Michael W.</div>
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If there is anything we can do to "give back" please let us know. We do plan to "pay it forward" and steer parents to your program if they ask us how we managed to cope with our Aspergers teenager. ~ Gale W.</div>
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In just one week after doing the My Aspergers Teen course, I saw huge changes in my child with Aspergers Syndrome – and even the teacher noticed. He’s a happier person due to this program. Thank you… thank you …thank you! ~ Kristi K.</div>
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It is like you have been hanging out in our home, watching us. We are on our 3rd therapist in a 2 year period, and not one of them have seemed to have a grasp on what we are dealing with, but your first few chapters have summed us up almost immediately. I had to stop and say thank you. ~ Paul R.</div>
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<i>Can this program work for me if I’m divorced and my son’s father lets him get away with everything while at his home?</i></div>
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Yes (you're referring to the Disneyland Dads). But I have to say, neither you nor your ex can control your Aspergers child. Neither one of you can make your child spit, stand on his head, walk a straight line, or any thing else for that matter. Thus, you will learn how to (a) stop trying to 'control' behavior, and instead (b) start 'influencing' him to make better choices. As a result, your child will take your 'influence' with him, even when he goes over to dad's house.</div>
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<i>How long will it take to see a positive change in my Aspergers child's behavior?</i></div>
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You should notice positive changes in your child – and in yourself – the very first day you use these parenting strategies. As you begin to implement the techniques outlined in the program, you will see even more significant, long-lasting changes in your child’s behavior and attitude. Parenting your Aspergers child will become easier -- and more enjoyable.</div>
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Bear in mind that if your child is, say, 15-years-old -- it has taken 15 years for the problems to get to this point. So it will take at least a few weeks to get the problems turned around. Most parents (90% plus) see permanent changes in their child's behavior within 4 weeks.</div>
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<i>What is the age range for this program?</i></div>
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I have used these techniques and concepts successfully with children as young as 5 years of age and as old as 19. The program has proven to be effective with children of any age, because it provides detailed guidelines to help parents create (in most cases spontaneously) the most effective approach for any given scenario -- regardless of age, gender, or race.</div>
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A popular parenting-myth is that one should parent differently depending on the child’s age. This is an example of the erroneous information floating around. You would certainly want to use different language depending on the child’s developmental stage (e.g., you don’t want to use big words with a 5-year-old), but parents should basically parent the same way whether their child is 3, 13, or 23.</div>
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<i>Can teachers, social workers, and other therapists use the information in this eBook?</i></div>
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Yes. Every adult who works with Aspergers children or teens in some capacity will benefit from the strategies presented in the material. Hundreds of teachers, parents, and therapists are now better equipped to deal with their difficult students, children, and clients because they learned how to think outside the box and approach Aspergers- related behavioral problems from a completely different angle.</div>
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<i>If an Aspergers child has an additional diagnosis (e.g., ADHD, ODD, OCD, etc.), will this course work for him too?</i></div>
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Definitely. Aspergers children rarely act-out for extended periods of time simply because they have a behavior problem. Most of these children have underlying, core issues that will need to be dealt with in advance of 'misbehavior'. This program is very helpful - and indeed necessary - for children who have more than one mental health issue.</div>
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