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Parenting System that Significantly Reduces Defiant Behavior in Teens with Aspergers and High-Functioning Autism

My Aspergers Teen is an instructional video series and downloadable eBook designed to help parents of defiant, Aspergers and High-Functioning Autistic (HFA) teens. The program contains prevention, identification, and intervention strategies for the most destructive of teen autism-related behaviors.

Although Aspergers is at the milder end of the autism spectrum (i.e., high-functioning autism), the challenges parents face when disciplining a teenager with Aspergers are more difficult than they would be with an average teen. Complicated by defiant behavior, the Aspergers teen is at risk for even greater difficulties on multiple levels, unless the parents’ disciplinary techniques are tailored to their child's special needs.

The standard disciplinary techniques that are recommended for “typical” teenagers do not take into account the many issues facing a child with a neurological disorder. Violent rages, self-injury, isolation-seeking tendencies and communication problems that arise due to auditory and sensory issues are just some of the behaviors that parents of teens with Aspergers and HFA will have to learn to control.

Parents need to come up with a consistent disciplinary plan ahead of time, and then present a united front and continually review their strategies for potential changes and improvements as the Aspergers or HFA teen develops and matures.

In the My Aspergers Teen parenting program, the parent will learn how to:
  • Identity the concerning behaviors
  • Come to an agreement on the “autism-specific” disciplinary techniques
  • Clearly post the rules and consequences outlined in the agreement
  • Implement a reward system for compliance with rules
  • Firmly apply consequences tailored to the specific needs of the Aspergers and HFA teen

Aspergers and HFA teens possess a unique set of attitudes and behaviors:

Social Skills— Social conventions are a confusing maze for teens with Aspergers and HFA. They can be disarmingly concise and to the point, and may take jokes and exaggerations literally. Because they struggle to interpret figures of speech and tones of voice that “neuro-typicals” naturally pick up on, they may have difficulty engaging in a two-way conversation. As a result, they may end up fixating on their own interests and ignoring the interests and opinions of others.

Sensory Difficulties— Teens with Aspergers and HFA can be extremely sensitive to loud noise, strong smells and bright lights. This can be a challenge in relationships as Aspergers and HFA teens may be limited in where they can go on, how well they can tolerate the environment, and how receptive they are to instruction from parents and teachers.

Routines and Fixations— Teens with Aspergers and HFA rely on routine to provide a sense of control and predictability in their lives. Another characteristic of the disorder is the development of special interests that are unusual in focus or intensity. These "special needs" teens may become so obsessed with their particular areas of interest that they get upset and angry when something or someone interrupts their schedule or activity.

Interpreting and Responding to Emotion— Teens with Aspergers and HFA often suffer from “mindblindness,” which means they have difficulty understanding the emotions others are trying to convey through facial expressions and body language. The problem isn’t that these teens can’t feel emotion, but that they have trouble expressing their own emotions and understanding the feelings of others. “Mindblindness” often give parents the impression that their Aspergers teen is insensitive, selfish and uncaring.

Awkwardness— Teens with Aspergers and HFA tend to be physically and socially awkward, which makes them a frequent target of school bullies. Low self-esteem caused by being rejected and outcast by peers often makes these teens even more susceptible to “acting-out” behaviors at home and school.

Testimonial: "Thank you! No....I mean sincerely thank you! I'm at work. I'm a single dad. Not really...just technically. I work from home and care for my only child who is 12 with Aspergers, my mom, my mom-in-law and my father-in-law. I'm blessed in that I can do this. My wife is a professor for UT and is gone almost all the time and when home she's exhausted. Anyways, I'm at my wits end with Garrett. It's as if he challenges me on everything and then has a meltdown if he doesn't get his way. I bought your book and didn't expect to get videos too. So I'm listening to your videos as I work and by the time I got to your fourth video I knew I had found the right source. It was if you were speaking directly to me. So when I say thank you, I mean just that. Can't wait to read the book and put your plan into action. God bless. ~ Joey L."

Due to the Aspergers/HFA-related attitudes and behaviors listed above, many teens may also experience the following associated problems:

Criminal Activity—Pain, loneliness and despair can lead to problems with drugs, sex and alcohol. In their overwhelming need to fit in and make friends, some Aspergers and HFA teens fall into the wrong high school crowds. “Average” teens who abuse substances will use the Aspergers/HFA teen's naivety to get him to buy or carry drugs and liquor for their group. If cornered by a police officer, an Aspergers/HFA teen usually does not have the skill to answer the officer's questions appropriately. For example, if the officer says, "Do you know how fast you  were driving?" an Aspergers/HFA teen may reply bluntly, "Yes," and thus appears to be a smart-aleck.

Depression and Acting Out—The teenage years are more emotional for everyone. Yet the hormonal changes of adolescence coupled with the problems outlined above might mean that an Aspergers/HFA teen becomes emotionally overwhelmed. Childish tantrums reappear. Boys often act-out by physically attacking a teacher or peer. They may experience "meltdown" at home after another day filled with harassment, bullying, pressure to conform, and rejection. Suicide and drug addiction become real concerns, as the teen now has access to cars, drugs and alcohol. The “saddest and most difficult time” can overwhelm not only the Aspergers teen, but also his family.

Inability to "Be a Teen"—An Aspergers/HFA teen typically does not care about fads and clothing styles (concerns that obsess all others in their peer group). Aspergers/HFA teens may neglect their hygiene and wear the same haircut for years. Boys forget to shave; girls don't comb their hair or follow fashion. Some Aspergers/HFA teens remain stuck in a grammar school clothes and hobbies such as unicorns and Legos, instead of moving into adolescent concerns like FaceBook and dating. Aspergers and HFA boys often have no motor coordination. This leaves them out of high school sports, typically an essential area of male bonding and friendship.

School Failures—Many Aspergers and HFA teens with their average to above average IQs can sail through grammar school, and yet hit academic problems in middle and high school. They now have to deal with four to six teachers, instead of just one. The likelihood that at least one teacher will be indifferent or even hostile toward making special accommodations is certain. The teenaged Aspergers/HFA student now has to face a series of classroom environments with different classmates, odors, distractions and noise levels, and sets of expectations. Aspergers and HFA teens with their distractibility and difficulty organizing materials face similar academic problems as students with Attention Deficit Disorder. A high school term paper or a science fair project becomes impossible to manage because no one has taught the teen how to break it up into a series of small steps. Even though the academic stress on a "special needs" teen can be overwhelming, school administrators may be reluctant to enroll him in special education at this late point in his educational career.

Sexual Issues—Aspergers and HFA teens are not privy to street knowledge of sex and dating behaviors that other teens pick up naturally. This leaves them naive and clueless about sex. Boys can become obsessed with Internet pornography and masturbation. They can be overly forward with a girl who is merely being kind, and then later face charges of stalking her. An Aspergers/HFA girl may have a fully developed female body and no understanding of flirtation and non-verbal sexual cues, making her susceptible to harassment and even date rape.

Social Isolation—In the teenage world where everyone feels insecure, teens that appear different are voted off the island. Aspergers and HFA teens often have odd mannerisms. One "special needs" teen talks in a loud un-modulated voice, avoids eye contact, interrupts others, violates their physical space, and steers the conversation to her favorite odd topic. Another appears willful, selfish and aloof, mostly because he is unable to share his thoughts and feelings with others. Isolated and alone, many Aspergers and HFA teens are too anxious to initiate social contact. Many Aspergers and HFA teens are stiff and rule-oriented and act like little adults, which is a deadly trait in any teenage popularity contest. Friendship and all its nuances of reciprocity can be exhausting for an Aspergers teen, even though he wants it more than anything else. One teenager ended a close friendship with this note: "Your expectations exhaust me. The phone calls, the talks, all your feelings... it's just too much for me. I can't take it anymore."

As the years go by, are you seeing your Aspergers or HFA child rapidly becoming reduced to a person who is surviving on: anger, being a mistake, depression, hate, isolation, low self-esteem, resentment, sadness and self-hate.

Have you heard your Aspergers or HFA teenager say things like: I'm a mistake. I'm dumb. I'm useless. I hate myself. I wish I was dead. What is wrong with me? Why was I born?

If so, then alarm bells should be going off. You know changes need to happen! Low self-esteem and behavioral problems go hand-in-hand!!!

My Aspergers Teen eBook is guaranteed to (a) improve your teen's behavior and self-esteem, and (b) empower parents and assist them in starting to enjoy their amazing Aspergers and HFA teens.

Parenting strong-willed, defiant teens with Aspergers and HFA is tough!  If you don't know how, that is. In this program, you will discover how to:
  • Be your teen’s best advocate
  • Help her comply with rules and expectations
  • Help him learn positive ways to "work with" his differences -- not to "fight" them
  • Learn the specifics of teen Aspergers/HFA behavior and how to keep it in perspective
  • Look at mistakes as lessons -- not as major set-backs
  • Re-evaluate your expectations
  • Take your power back as the parent
  • Tune-in to who your child genuinely is -- not what the stereotypical child is (based on social beliefs)
  • Cope with your Aspergers or HFA teen's difficult and aggressive behaviors
  • Understand what is really going on inside her head
  • Help your teen cope better in the community and at school
  • Keep the peace at home with the rest of the family
  • Greatly improve your child's self-esteem, because "special needs" teens with low self-esteem have very little - or no - motivation to change behavior

Testimonial: "Dear Mark Hutten....I wanted to take the time to thank you for your online help with our son Wes. We followed your advice and you were right, he did not fail.  He has been home 6 months now and we have seen a fair amount of improvement in him. He still doesn't talk much but his disposition has improved with decreased scowls, cuss words and rantings about how unfair everyone/life has been to him.  He is helpful and responsible around the house. He has been successfully employed and works his butt of 7 days a week, one with an oil field service company and the other at a pizza place, which I think is his social life. He still wants to get out of Alaska but at least we are having conversations about making realistic long term plans. You were the only person that gave us sensible advice...the psychologist and other mental health specialist were no help at all.  ~ Chris & Carmen S."

If you have tried talking, screaming, punishing, pleading, and negotiating -- but your teen still walks all over you… If you find yourself "walking on eggshells" around your teen trying to avoid saying something that will set him off… If you are tired of struggling with a person who is disrespectful, obnoxious, or even abusive toward you in your own home… If you are frustrated and exhausted from constant arguing… Then download the My Aspergers Teen eBook, and begin the healing process within 5 minutes from now!

Imagine NO MORE:
  • Begging to get your teen to respond to simple requests
  • Getting pulled into pointless, never-ending arguments
  • Energy-sucking power struggles that ruin the whole evening
  • Feeling powerless and stress-out because nothing you say to your teen gets through

Now, when you talk, your teen will listen and respond appropriately. Don’t go another day being a hostage in your own house. Get back in control of your teenager today.

I can tell you from over 20 years of experience that bad Aspergers/HFA teen behavior does NOT change without an intervention like the one I'm giving you here. Inside My Aspergers Teen, you will get all the tools you need to improve your child's behavior. And as always, I guarantee your success -- or your money back!

       Mark Hutten, M.A.
Parent Coaching-- In addition to the eBook and instructional videos, you will also have access to me as your personal parent coach. Always feel free to email me as often as needed while you begin to implement your new parenting strategies. I can usually respond within 24 hours.

Money-Back Guarantee-- If you’re not satisfied with the My Aspergers Teen program after examining it for 30 days, just let me know and I’ll refund your money. That’s how confident I am that these disciplinary techniques will help you with parenting your defiant Aspergers or HFA teen.

Testimonial: "I just want to say thank you.  You are an answered prayer!  We have an Aspergers 12-year-old daughter.  We just moved to a new state, kids started a new school, our dog died - lots of stress.  I felt like you were talking DIRECTLY to ME last night.  It was such an answered prayer. I stayed up till past 1 am to read the first week and took tons of notes.  I stayed home from church to finish reading this morning. I had HUGE "ah ah" moment. My mom is mentally ill and has tried and continues to try - very manipulatively - to make me responsible for her feelings. I have realized that  I am doing the same thing with my daughter: being afraid to really discipline to not "hurt her feelings" and also making HER responsible for my feelings by yelling and screaming!  HUGE breakthrough for me last night.  I look forward to continuing this 4 week program.  I am also taking a stand and setting some NEW boundaries with my mom and I feel stronger than ever about this. Blessings.  ~ Jessica Y."

The problem is that most parents of defiant Aspergers and HFA teens have tried very hard to get just a little respect and compliance, but with little - or no - success. And it seems the harder the parent tries, the more the teenager rebels.

I often hear the following statement from parents: “I've tried everything with this child – and nothing works.” But when they download the My Aspergers Teen eBook, they soon discover they have NOT tried everything – rather they have tried some things.

You now have the opportunity to learn "cut-to-the-chase" parenting strategies that work immediately rather than weeks or months down the road. And I guarantee your success or you get your money back – and you can keep the eBook. This is how confident I am that this information is going to work for you!

No, I’m not a miracle worker. But you don’t need a miracle! All you need is this set of proven parenting techniques – specific to the Aspergers/HFA condition – to use with your defiant teenager.

Parenting defiant Aspergers and HFA teens is tough!  If you don't know how, that is...

If parents don’t have the techniques outlined in the My Aspergers Teen program, all they are left with are typical disciplinary methods. And as you may have discovered, typical methods don't work with an Aspergers or HFA teenager.

Below is a partial list of typical parenting strategies. Parents have found these strategies to have little - or no - effect on their "special needs" teen's behavior:

  • Trying to "reason" with the child
  • Having heart-to-heart talks
  • "Confronting" the child or being assertive
  • Grounding
  • Taking away privileges
  • Time-outs
  • Counseling
  • Trying to be a nicer parent
  • Trying to be a tougher parent
  • "Giving in" and letting the child have his way
  • Verbal warnings
  • Ignoring misbehavior
  • Medication
  • Having the child go live with his other parent (if parents are separated or divorced)
  • Having another family member "talk to" or attempt to "mentor" the child
  • Threatening to send the child away to a juvenile facility
  • Threatening to call the police
  • and so on...

I’m giving you the chance to break the cycle of disrespect and non-compliance …to bring some peace back into your household again …and to keep your child from potential self-destruction. And you can start in just 5 minutes from now!

In the My Aspergers Teen program, you will receive:
  • The My Aspergers Teen eBook
  • Instructional videos and Power Point presentations you can view online
  • Live audio recordings of my seminars you can listen to online 
  • Our weekly newsletter: get new autism-related parenting skills delivered straight to your inbox every week
  • Ongoing and easy and access to your own personal parent-coach via email correspondence
  • No hassle 100% money-back guarantee

Order the My Aspergers Teen program for a one-time
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This program is GUARANTEED to work, so there's absolutely NO WAY that you can lose!

If for any reason you are not thrilled and satisfied with your purchase,
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If you have any questions about the My Aspergers Teen eBook,
Instructional Videos, or the Parent Coaching service included in this program,
call (765-810-3319) or email (

About the Author-- Mark Hutten, M.A. is the executive director of Online Parent Support, LLC. He is a practicing counseling psychologist and parent-coach with more than 20 years’ experience. He has worked with hundreds of children and teenagers with Aspergers and High-Functioning Autism (HFA), and presents workshops and runs training courses for parents and professionals who deal with Aspergers and HFA. Also, Mark is a prolific author of articles and ebooks on the subject.

Contact Information--  
Online Parent Support, LLC
2328 N 200 E
Anderson, IN  46012
Phone: 765-810-3319

==> Testimonials

==> Frequently Asked Questions

==> Parenting Aspergers and HFA Teens: Tips for Parents 

==> Unique Problems Faced by Teenagers with Asperger’s and High-Functioning Autism

A Final Note--

Dear Parents,

I'm not offering a complete cure for ALL behavior problems, and I'm not trying to claim that every single thing that you'll ever need to help your teenager is in my eBook. But if you are looking for rock solid and proven solutions to a whole bunch of parenting-problems associated with parenting an Aspergers or HFA teen, then I'm confident that you can benefit from my help.

You could (and may) spend the rest of the afternoon surfing and "researching" about teenage autism-related behavioral problems only to find that you've gained a wonderful knowledge of what many of the problems are without any real knowledge of what to do about them.

Let’s face it: You have been force-fed garbage and misinformation that will never put your “special needs” teen back on the right track. I'm tired of reading all the bad advice out there …I’m tired of seeing Aspergers and HFA teens’ lives ruined because their emotions and behavior can’t be controlled …and I’m tired of seeing parents chase their tails in a hopeless cycle of frustration and stress.

If you’re going through the same parent-child conflict that most of the other parents who land on this site are going through, then the problems at home and school are not getting better - they’re steadily getting worse. How much longer are you willing to wait?  I'm guessing that you already feel like you have wasted too much time and energy trying to get some real solutions.

I trust that you’ll take a step of faith here and get started with this on-line program immediately.

~ Mark Hutten, M.A.